I’ve been dyyying to write this post ever since I read ManMeetsScale’s fantastic post on “Sneaky Eating.” Once again I was blown away by the terrific writing, absolute honesty and hilarious humor in this guy’s writing. And I had so so so so many things to say in response but kept feeling as if I’d need two free years and a 500-page blank book in order to do it. (might need that anyway)
Go read that one first. Then come back here. Are you back? Wasn’t that great??
I have to say, it brought tears to my eyes. The kind of tears that come when you really feel SEEN. And understood. Now I suspect that many, many people feel this same way about certain food behaviors, but they don’t go around telling people about it. The thing that astonishes me about this CEO of ours is that he DOES put his dirty laundry out there. And it is such a gift and a service to all the rest of us.
I was completely fascinated by the way he does that “sneak a little spoonful” thing. That’s not how I do it. You wanna hear how I do it? My own personal sneakiness has to do with eating in a car. I think I have had this belief that “if you eat it in a car, it’s invisible” (and of COURSE contains no calories! Natch!) And the car is like this little soundproof, sealed, safe container.
I don’t remember when I first started eating in a car but I suspect it had something to do with when I got married and no longer lived alone. I had to find a place where I’d be anonymous, hidden. My favorites were super-rich macaroni and cheese, or creamy polenta, or chocolate Schoolboy biscuits (the whole box) or shortbread cookies (the whole package). If I was stressed, I’d head straight to the Andronico’s parking lot and there I’d be.
Last week, at my Healthaversary party, someone said to me (in front of everyone else): “I know so many people who try and try and try to lose weight but never can. But you did. What do you think your secret is?” I had to think really hard about that. But I truly do think that the answer is, to come out into the open about what is previously shameful.
Which is at the essence of a really, really good WW meeting. Or blogging about one’s food and weight and eating.
I kept this in the “dark” for so so so so long and it just fueled it, like.. what? Mushrooms? (trying to think of what grows in the dark) Even therapy, a LOT of it, didn’t really touch it because it was just too… private. But talking about it amongst my blogging and Twitter and face-to-face friends has really been the Secret.
I’m taking it another step further. I’m very very very excited to be turning Foodie McBody, the Story, (HA!) into a live solo performance show! I’ve done solo performance before and there is nothing that is quite as wonderful and cathartic and moving. I’m working on a short piece that will be performed (by me!) the night of March 28th, in San Francisco. (same night as the morning of the MARATHON!) If any of you will be around, I’d be extremely psyched to have some friendly faces in the audience. More details to come as it gets closer.
What’s YOUR sneaky eating like? C’mon, tell Foodie all about it.
January 26, 2010 at 1:19 am
So the “Secret” to your success is not keeping secrets. I like it…
January 26, 2010 at 2:42 am
YES! That’s exactly right! Trippy, isn’t it? The secret is not keeping secrets.
Which is sort of the story of my life.
January 26, 2010 at 3:27 am
I want to hear more about this solo thing please….
January 26, 2010 at 7:51 pm
I’m taking a solo performance class which is basically about acting out a story (all by yourself!) on stage. It’s terrifying but also exhilarating and amazing. I’ve done it twice before but it has been a few years. I am now sooooooooo excited to basically transform this blog into a stage performance. I wrote 3 pages of script already and am completely stoked! It’s just going to be a mini-piece of around 20 minutes but if it goes well I might develop it into a full length show. I’m very very excited!
If ANYBODY is in or near San Francisco on March 28th, please come on over! I’ll post details as it gets closer.
January 26, 2010 at 3:27 am
January 26, 2010 at 9:59 am
Oh, don’t I love those schoolboy biscuits and I have my own tales to tell about them! Sneaking is a big problem for me. Your post and David’s now have me thinking……
January 26, 2010 at 10:46 am
Great post! (Bothof them!) I totally have episodes of sneaky eating. My downfall is when I’m really good about depriving myself in public – a.k.a. skipping the dessert at the neighborhood party. But then I feel, well, deprived so when I get home I stand in front of my freezer and sneak spoonfulls of ice cream… sigh.
January 26, 2010 at 12:47 pm
I would love to see this solo performance but I won’t be in the area. Will someone record it and you can put it on your blog ??? pleeeease!
Ahh, those schoolboy biscuits are tasty indeed.
I am either in denial about sneaking or I don’t do it. Or to me it is just Eating When No One Is Around. heh heh.
January 26, 2010 at 7:52 pm
I think if you eat anything when No One is Around that you WOULDN’T eat if everyone was right in front of you, it qualifies as sneaky eating. 😉
January 27, 2010 at 10:02 am
Ok then, I’m not a Sneaky Eater I guess. I eat the same crap in front of people that I do when I’m alone. I guess that has never been an issue for me.
January 27, 2010 at 5:44 pm
Solo performance!!? Oh, PLEASE tell me when your show is, I would absolutely love to see you.
January 27, 2010 at 5:47 pm
ok, just calmed down and re-read the last paragraph. march 28th. first 26 miles, then the stage??! I’ll come bearing roses and a chilled protein shake for you in my purse.
January 27, 2010 at 11:21 pm
Both are spot-on! Cubicle eating is sort of like this, since I have privacy, but I’ve also used my car. I haven’t made a rule against eating privately in my car, but I’m aware that I do that; more often I’ve chosen not to, so it’s a habit that’s being broken.
I think, for me, when I sneak now it’s more because of the kids; for example, there are some weeknight evenings when I eat dinner after them and want dessert, but I wait until they’ve gone to bed, because it’s either too late for them to be eating dessert or they’ve already had dessert and I just don’t want to deal with them begging for more dessert. It usually works in my favor, though, because I’ll choose something healthier to nosh on or I’ll say, heck with it, I’m too tired to eat. 😉
January 28, 2010 at 4:40 pm
Can totally relate…and I wrote my own blog post in response to David’s…how funny. Your “secret” about not keeping secrets reminds me of this:
Some Powerful Paradoxes About Flawlessness by David McCleary, author of Leaving Prisons: Release Your Trapped Value (http://www.flawlessleaders.com)
We are most authentic when discussing our hypocrisy.
We are most successful when we fully experience our great failures.
We are most honest when we can say that we lied.
We are most accepting the moment we embrace our self-rejection.
We are most significant when we embrace our irrelevance.
We are most productive when we become unattached to outcomes.
We are most secure when we accept inherent risk.
We are most wealthy when we possess that which cannot be bought.
We are most alive when we live as though we will die.
We are most powerful when we empower others.
The most caring thing we can do is care for ourselves.
The most holy thing we can say is that we are evil.
The most whole thing we can say is that we are broken.
The most flawless thing we can say is that we are flawed.
February 3, 2010 at 12:58 am
Karen, those are so powerful. Thank you.