Along with a friend of mine, I decided to actually write out my specific reasons for wanting to lose weight. I’ve been mulling this in my head for the past month, and it occurs to me that it is very, very different from other times. In the past, I’ve wanted to… just because. But it was very mushy thinking. The only time I was ever really successful with a food plan was when I was pregnant with my daughter and had gestational diabetes. My food intake was impeccable during that period. There was NOTHING I was going to do to put that baby at risk.
So here I am again, only it’s me this time. I’m the one who is at risk. And I’m finding it an excellent, excellent motivator. And here are my Reasons. (not necessarily in order of importance, just as they come into my head)
- I don’t want to have diabetes. I don’t want to have to take medication or insulin to keep it under control.
- I want to be a healthy role model for my daughters. I feel like I have a lot of karma to work off for the years of being an unhealthy one.
- I don’t want my physician husband to have to feel “concerned” about me and my health because I am overweight.
- I’d love to be able to randomly order clothes from a catalog or at a store and feel pretty confident that they will fit and/or look good on me.
- I want physical activity to feel good, not to feel like torture.
- I want to have energy, not feel like a couch potato.
- I know I will die someday, but when I do, I want to feel that I did not contribute to my death by having unhealthy habits. I used to have a recurring dread nightmare that I would die of a stroke or heart attack, and when they did an autopsy they would find that my heart was encased in fat like a big butterball. And people would shake their heads and say, She brought this on herself. I want to feel that I truly did all I could do to keep myself healthy.
- I feel a lot bouncier overall when I weigh less – physically and emotionally.
- I want to find better ways of dealing with my emotions other than eating stuff.
- I want to not be disgusted with myself.
The Beck book recommends making multiple copies of your list and keeping it in one’s wallet, coat pocket, computer screen and whatnot.
Can I just say, I love my reasons. I think they are good reasons and I think they will help me get where I want to go. In the past, I had either very nonspecific reasons, or dumb, temporary reasons like “high school reunion.” (did that, 10 years ago, promptly put it all back on right after) I feel like these reasons are going to stay with me for a long time. Or at least that is my hope. They’re not reasons that can “wear off.”
What are your reasons?
March 3, 2009 at 6:27 pm
First let me say Way to go at 15!!!! So proud of you for accomplishing this part of your goal. I bet your feeling proud as well. You should be 🙂
I have to say I love all your reasons and there real and very good reason why one should be determined to lose weight.
I myself am doing it so I can be a cover model for GQ magazine…. Just joking, that’s being a bit vane I think 🙂 I am doing this for me and only me so I can live a much healthier , happy and fulfilled life. I am 47 and single and who knows I might be this way all my life so the only person that will be taking care of me, again is me. So to make it easier I might as well do something now to prevent and serious issues down the road.
Thanks for sharing those reason. It gives us all something tho think about and to really ponder why we are doing this.
March 3, 2009 at 7:23 pm
What a *great* exercise (omg, no pun intended). I am going to do it for myself, too, even if I’m not on the Beck plan.
March 5, 2009 at 10:19 am
Hi …thanks for pointing me to your blog!
My reasons have stood up for almost 5 years of sustaining over 100 pounds lost:
1- I want to walk my daughters down the aisle.
2- I like to move and walk and bend and don’t want to feel like I cannot.
3- I did not want to get diabetes (blood work was getting close)
4-I want to be a dad until my kids are adults.
5- I’d actually like to go on a date again someday and frankly, being over 320 lbs didn’t exactly help!! 🙂
6- I got tired of sedating my depression and anxiety with food.
There were others, but that is the gist…
March 5, 2009 at 3:34 pm
Pat, those are excellent reasons. Now, the million dollar question – HOW did you do it, and how did you sustain it?!